Why Am I Addicted to Such a Bad Relationship?

Question by Sweetladi: Why am I addicted to such a bad relationship?
what do u think about this situation?I was involved with a guy I used to work with as a security officer.He had been with the company as a security supervisor(for 10 years).and when we first met, he would call up to my job, and hang up, and ask people about me, I mean he really pursued me. When I first met him, he would always mention how “yea, this person likes to put white powder up their noses”.he always mentioned “cocaine”, he smokes weed everyday, 32 years old, security officer for 10 years, ..he basically stalked me, through my co workers,..he would drive past my job, all kinds of stuff,when we first started talking he told me up front he had been accussed of sexual harrassment ..and he didnt want to get in trouble with being involved with me,so some monts past, and I still proceeded to get involved with this guy, and we had like a little something for a few months.The first time I went over his house, I notice that he kept looking out the window..looking behind corners….just acting weird, so after that he broke it off with me, because he said “he has a conscience”…whatever that means…so after we broke it off, he still would play kiddie games, call my job, play on my cell phone..In my mind, I’m thinking “ok maybe he misses me”…so six months later I called him,, we ended up getting involved again in October 2010.And soonas I see him, hes asks to see my cell phone, and starts going through it. asking me”who have you been calling”I’m like wth..( I havent seen you in months, and you’re going through my phone, then he tells me”listen to me, Iwant you to open up an IRA Account, you hear me” in a demanding voice..and if i leave hes like”Oh why you didnt drive up when i told you too” questioning me about every thing…” he laid down the rules…”no popping up over his house unannounced”, no blowing up his phone”(he means calling him multiple times”, “I am not allowed over his house” his reason is because I had “popped” over his house before his son had seen me, and I caused a big problem, because he had to explain to his son about m e” To add,He will not let me ride in his company car, everytime we met up, we would drive seperately, and I would meet him at his job, he would drop off the company car, and we would drive my car to a club, bar, restaraunt, after he got off,”,….another rule,he.also told me not to call or text his work phone..(because he doesnt want people in his business), and he leaves his work cell at work, after he gets off” which he lied about, he would never want to use his debit cards when we were out,he would always say”I’m ougta cash” so he would only use cash when we were out”which i thought was weird, I also found out that his son, his ex-girlfriend(baby mama) and her other two children(by another guy) all live exactly downstairs from his apartment) and in addition, the apartment she stays in is in his name”James Mitchell”) plus he watches her. children while she works( so he could help her get crystal stairs) which is a goverment program to low income families to help support child care”He says he does it so that he doesnt have to pay child support…

he works nights from like 6am – 2 pm as a security supervisor, I had already left the company,.and I noticed that he would really only answer his phone/txts when he gets to work, or during the day, his phone was turned off,(which i thought was weird) and when I would ask him about it, he would say”My son has my phone sometimes”…I also notice that when we would make love, he never spent the night..and so I think one day..he invited me out on his days off,, but he flaked most of the time, and he would call me the next day, when he was at work, and said “he forgot” so I broke it off, and told him to just lose my number,this happened around Halloween..and ever since then I would call to check up on him once every two/three weeks, but I would get no response, BUT, he will call or text me from an Unknown number, and just hold the phone,which confuses me…..so, last night I text him, and his son answers, but I called him from a blocked number, and his son says hes not there and I hear kids in the background(which are his ex- girlfriend(baby mama) other two children)..I dont know what to think. does this sound weird.. that his son is answering his phone and his phone is turned off, and I ve called him several times all last night and this morning, and his phone is turned off, going straight to voicemail,…but hes still playing on my phone, I think he hacks into my email/facebook., he knows alot about me, and I dont know how..he recently was fired from his security job, so hes on the internet creating fake facebook profiles, I also recently found out his baby mother lost her security position as well back in November 2010,..so how could s

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