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Ive been married 5 years, together for 7 years. My husband and I hardly ever have a meaningful conversation without getting irritated with each other. We’ve been fighting about the same issues for about 2 years now…his gambling, drinking, not doing what he says he’ll do, putting others before myself (his wife), etc. He goes out to play poker and drink with his “friends” almost every Friday and Saturday and almost never comes home when he says he will…being home at midnight is consider early for him, he’s actually gone out till 5 AM a few times. I know he’s not cheating cause I have my ways of checking.

I understand he needs some space from time to time…but I feel that what he’s doing is selfish and inconsiderate…I am his wife, not girl friend. We’ve talked about this “problem” of his more than a few time. Some times he says he should be able to do what he wants to do and rarely he’ll say he’s sorry and admits his problem. Most of the time he says he working on it and is trying to change slowly…but when Friday rolls around he forgets everything he tells me and history repeats itself. Disappoint after disappointment. He hangs out with people who drinks to get drunk, gamblers, and disrespects women (and believe they could do what they want). I tell him that I don’t approve of a few specific people and would appreciate it if he made an effort to not associate with them so often. After all, my husband is very easily influenced.

I try not to get overly emotional and “yell” at him…just talk to him. But he either gets angry and says, “I dont want to talk about it” or “I know, I’ll try”…but then next week he’s at it again. I feel like he just doesn’t respect me as his wife or considers any of my feelings. Maybe our values are just too different? If I had it my way, there would be no gambling, drinking, or socializing with alcoholic/gambling/sexist people…but I try to meet him half way and say hang out 1-2 times a month or so is ok. He’s 32 and Im 23…it really should be ME who is acting up and immature…not a 32 year old guy. I know about his past and he had a lot of fun, partied a lot/experienced a lot…so it’s not like he missed out on his “younger” days. Im young, but very discipline and strict when it comes to my own lifestyle. I made a mistake of getting married young…but Im trying to make things work (I don’t want to give up unless I’ve tried my best)…I just dont know what else to say or do to help him want a better life for himself. Obviously, I want a different lifestyle…I just don’t want to divorce unless there was no other way. AT this point I feel that he’s just not capable of seeing pass his own wants. I feel that he’s going to do what he wants to do despite my feelings. Yes, I’ve communicated my feelings a millions times in a million different approaches.

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Answer by Naresh Neupane
first you make him understand, even than he cannot improve than you just divorce

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